Ryan’s Story

Ryan’s Story by his Mum, Carol-Ann

Ryan, with twin sister, Hope

Our first experience with St Andrew’s Hospice was in May 2022 when our son, Ryan – our daughter Hope’s twin brother – was transferred there from the hospital, aged just 23.

Ryan was diagnosed with colitis when he was 12. In April 2022, he was admitted to hospital with his bowel perforated. On the 1st of May, Ryan was transferred to a busy, noisy surgical ward and we found out he had bowel cancer. The Doctor asked him if he wanted to stay there, have care at home or be admitted to St Andrew’s Hospice. Right away, Ryan said he wanted to go to the Hospice. When I asked why, he reminded me that when he was at St Andrew’s High School, he had visited the Hospice and he really liked it. It felt like the right place to go.

When we arrived at the Hospice, it just felt right. We felt loved and they took excellent care of the four of us. Ryan had Reiki and was visibly relaxed. It was so peaceful but strangely not sad. The staff listened to him, spoke to him and treated him with compassion.

Sadly, Ryan passed away in the Hospice 13 days after diagnosis. However, our experience of the Hospice did not stop there. I struggled with grief and had counselling in the Hospice and at home. St Andrew’s Hospice helped us at the most difficult period of time in our family’s lives. We are forever grateful that Ryan felt safe and loved in his final days.

Carol-Ann, Daryl and Hope Brown